Most adults expect children to be obedient and calm. They want the kids to follow their rules and do what they want them to do. When a child grows up, he or she should learn to respect the authorities. However, in my opinion, sometimes being obedient is not really good. An adult person should be able to make his or her own opinion on different subjects, should live the way he or she wants to. If a person is very dependant on others' orders, it may be difficult for him or her to be an adult.
I believe that most parents want their children to be happy. They also want not to have many problems with the upbringing of a child. The parents want the children to follow some rules and orders, because they believe that the child is not able to decide on some things by itself. However, many parents demand too much from their children. They may want a child to fulfill their own dreams and do things, which they were not able to do as they were children. Many parents do not care for what the child really wants. They think that a child must have the same priorities and rules in life as they do. If a child follow his or her parents' rules in all cases, it may grow up to a very unhappy adult. Such person may finish great collages, get a very good job, but not feel happy. Why? Because the most important decisions concerning his or her life were made not by him or her, but by their parents. Such children are not able to oppose against the authorities.
I think that people, who used to be 'god children' often grow up and are unhappy. In my opinion all parents should let the child make the most important decision by itself. They may advise and say, what they think about the behaviors of a child, but at the same time- respect its decisions. Such upbringing is very beneficial- a child may grow up to be an independent and happy person.
